I’m a huge American Idol fan. I love watching how potential is coaxed to life. I was so stimulated by last night’s surprise value lessons I lost sleep. Usher was the Idol mentor for this week’s R&B-inspired show. He did a phenomenal job of coaching the idol “10” to take the stage. He seemed to nail the issues that are barriers to winning for each of the contestants and directly call them to action to overcome them. He was immensely likeable. But the thing that captivated me was how outside of himself he was in his approach. Usher was completely focused on each contestant, completely in the moment with them. His personal confidence and sense of identity are apparently so strong that he is able to actively press himself into building up others. The contestants were his agenda, not the camera or upholding his image and reputation before millions of viewers or winning more raving fans to himself.
The second value lesson came from Simon Cowell, who spoke directly to Lee Dewyze, a contestant with huge potential for commercial success who gave a banner performance. This young man apparently struggles with small confidence. Cowell called it (the confidence issue) out again, spoke to his difficulty making eye contact, suggested his lack of self assurance is perhaps due to something that happened in his past, and then affirmed him. He said Lee Dewyze would realize in watching back the tape that his world had just changed. Like Usher, he was an agent unafraid to challenge the barriers to potential and give a reason for hope (success).
So here’s the value lesson: those of us in positions of leadership have an opportunity to unleash the best in those around us. But we can’t do that effectively if we can’t get past or outside ourselves. How’s your confidence factor? Are you doing the right things to quell your own insecurities or bring down personal barriers so you can actively press yourself into the lives around you? Are you an Usher who’s over instead of all about yourself? Are you bold enough to mentor a friend, family member or client, calling out the barriers to potential and authentically investing in and cheering success? Are you ushering talent?



